Why Being Stylish Doesn’t Mean Your Are Vain

Posted In: My Outfits

Some people say that what matters is what’s on the inside and working as a personal stylist I often get accused of being vain, materialistic and promoting ego.

However, people who say this are viewing fashion from the outside and refusing to see the industry in a different light, the light I see it in. Fashion, just like painting, poetry, or music, is an art, a form of expression. This industry has always encouraged everyone to embrace their uniqueness and express themselves according to who they really are long before the rest of the world was ready to embrace it. Moreover, creating your own style brings the truth into the statement, “love yourself for who you are” and “all sizes are beautiful” as by wearing various styles and colours helps you to highlight the features you are most proud of and love yourself even more.

And this is exactly what I do with my clients.  I am teaching them to look after themselves and help propel towards things that may have been holding them back with the power of fashion. Many of my clients suffer body image issues, low confidence or have just felt like they have lost themselves and are keen to combine a life change with a visual one.

Fashion can help people feel better about themselves. Almost in the same way a morning jog or an afternoon manicure can. Fashion is also a form of creative expression, a way to tell your story to the world.


Your style could get you over the line in career progression, it can also help keep your relationships fresh and above all, when done correctly, you will no longer see your “flaws” be it large thighs, small breasts or wide hips – you will just be you and you will love it.

I believe  that the path we create for ourselves is our runway and we should always appear on it in style, confidence and finesse. So to all those who say that fashion is shallow as it only focuses on outwardly appearances, I would like to say that I see fashion and personal style as tools which help to bring out the person we are on the inside for the world to see us and tell our own stories.

They say don’t judge a book by its cover, but the truth is, the cover is what catches our eye and introduces us to what the book is about.

Photos by Jasmina Haskovic

Thank you so much for reading!


  • Gareth Torrance
    July 13, 2017

    I didn’t realise people thought being stylish did make you vain? Wow… Some people really don’t think about the person behind the style, do they? I mean, I’m not stylish at all, nor well built at the moment, but if I put on an outfit that I like, I feel much better about myself!

  • Cathy Glynn
    July 13, 2017

    I think I need an hour with a stylist, you always look wonderful x

  • Natasha Mairs
    July 13, 2017

    it true what you said about judging a book by it’s cover, because I actually do. Love your shoes, they are just gorgeous

  • Rhian Westbury
    July 13, 2017

    Being stylish just means that you care about how you look and what you’re wearing. x

  • Becca Talbot
    July 13, 2017

    I 100% agree with this – you shouldn’t judge a book by it’s cover. Just because someone likes to dress nicely doesn’t mean they are vain. Also, I bloody love your Jimmy Choos x

  • Jenni
    July 13, 2017

    I’m not vain in my opinion. But when I wear a nice outfit I feel more confident, I don’t think thats a bad thing 🙂

  • Jess
    July 13, 2017

    I really agree with you on this one. I don’t think people should judge us by our outfits – but I do think it’s very telling when someone looks after themselves and is confident in what they wear. Self expression in fashion has nothing to do with vanity, it’s about self care.

  • Dean of Little Steps
    July 13, 2017

    I so agree, being stylish doesn’t make a person vain at all. People who say that are just envious of others 😉

  • Cath - BattleMum
    July 13, 2017

    I’ve never thought someone who is stylish as vain. I simply admire them and actually think that if they are stylish they are confident and happy in themselves. I admire stylish people for dressing so well and for having the confidence for pulling off fashionable outfits! I wouldn’t call myself stylish or fashionable but I do try, especially for things like a night out or special occasion.

  • Talya
    July 13, 2017

    What’s wrong with being stylish?! I definitely don’t see it as being vain but just loving clothes and looking good!

  • Becky, Cuddle Fairy
    July 13, 2017

    I agree with the other commenters, I never thought there was a connection between being stylish & vein. I love the Jimmy Choos – they are so fab!!

  • Jordanne | Thelifeofaglasgowgirl
    July 13, 2017

    I whole heartedly agree with you, our fashion is a way for us to express ourselves and I love that we can do this through such amazing art.

    Jordanne || Thelifeofaglasgowgirl.co.uk

  • five little doves
    July 13, 2017

    I totally agree with this too. I am neither stylish nor vain though, I wish I could be a little more of both!

  • All about a mummy
    July 13, 2017

    I couldn’t agree more. What you wear is an extension of your personality.

  • Lauretta at Home and Horizon
    July 14, 2017

    I totally agree, being stylish just shows that you care on how you look. It’s a way of self expression. I love your Jimmy Choo.

  • Angela Milnes
    July 14, 2017

    I think it’s great to have a style. My daughter loves to wear great clothes but it no way at all vain. In fact she is the opposite!

  • London mumMa
    July 14, 2017

    Oh my gosh far from being vain, just because you want to look good and your best at all times, does not mean that at all! You always look fabulous lovely.

  • Lynne Harper
    July 14, 2017

    Im definitely far from being vain but I love making an effort. You look absolutely incredible in these shots x

  • Dannii
    July 14, 2017

    I definitely think that you can care about the way you look without being vain.

  • Ashleigh Dougherty
    July 14, 2017

    I think it’s a huge misconception that bloggers and “internet people” are vain… when in reality, it’s us just doing our work!

  • Stephanie Merry
    July 14, 2017

    Love this post, what you wear is definitely an extension of your personality and it doesn’t make you vain x

  • danasia fantastic
    July 14, 2017

    I love your outfit! And I don’t think it’s vain at all to take pride in your appearance. People who say that are clearly just insecure about their own sense of self.

  • Baby Isabella
    July 14, 2017

    My mummy likes to dress quirky as its a reflection of her character and there’s nothing wrong about wanting to be stylish, especially if it makes you feel good.

  • Claire
    July 14, 2017

    Lovely outfit. I think it is great to wear what you like and feel comfortable in. I hate people to see me when I am at the park in old clothes walking the dog.

  • Musings of a tired mummy...zzz...
    July 14, 2017

    I think first impressions are important but what follows is even more important. Being concerned with your looks doesn’t make you vain unless it starts to obsess you.

  • Kira
    July 14, 2017

    I think it’s really good you’re making this point clear! I’m not one for always having a good style but on the days I do I’ve often had people say things, when why can’t I just dress nicely because I want to, why does it have to mean anything?! :’)

  • Leah Lander-Shafik
    July 14, 2017

    I love the idea that we can express ourselves through fashion and style and I totally sign up to the fact it’s not vanity. I think it’s deifnitely expression x

  • Jen
    July 15, 2017

    Absolutely agree that fashion is an art form. Which is why when the likes of Lady Gaga gets slated for her outrageous outfits, I feel it is unfair. We can all have vanity, but being stylish and interested in fashion does not make you vain. I adore your shoes, they are simply wonderful.

  • Lilinha
    July 15, 2017

    It is very important to dress stylish and elegant, it helps with self-esteem and confidence! 🙂

  • nicol
    July 15, 2017

    you look amazing in that outfit! i honestly never thought stylish meant vain. whenever i walk past someone who’s stylish, i look at what they’re wearing and keep a mental note of it as i love it!

  • Ana De- Jesus
    July 16, 2017

    God it makes me so mad when people say fashion is a show of vanity. Like you I believe that fashion is an artistic form of expression and should not be discredited. When I wear clothes that make me feel good it makes me feel badass, I love the power that clothing can give us.

  • Yaya
    July 16, 2017

    Self expression through fashion can do so much good for our self esteem. Even those who say they aren’t “into fashion” tend to have their own style that reflects a lot about them, go figure! x

  • Ayesha farhad
    July 17, 2017

    I have two extremes. One where I look like I am homeless and the other where even Angelina Jolie would be ashamed haha! I absolutely agree when you say that with fashion you can express yourself. It channels your inner creativity!

  • Kara
    July 17, 2017

    I love the look and especially the shoes. I think a little vanity goes a long way and makes you feel good about yourself

  • Sarah - let them be small
    July 18, 2017

    I tend to rely on the same old same old – I really ought to book time with a stylist who might be able to move me out of my comfort zone and tried and tested bits x

  • Mummy Times Two
    August 3, 2017

    I totally agree with this. There is nothing vain about feeling like you.

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